Don’t Worry, Sari!

My mother died 10 years ago. I've been trying to fulfil her absence since and take care of my closest male relatives: my dad who is left alone after 30 years of marriage, my brother Zalán who can't find his place in the world, and my cousin Bendegúz, a father of a 2 year-old still putting alcohol and partying in front of everything else.

I’m 36 now and I want to stop the patterns I’ve been repeating, so I’m starting a transgenerational therapy. Don’t worry, Sari! is a situative documentary. The therapy sessions will give a frame to the film and in between we see a personal family saga. For that we’ll use footage that my mother and later I have been filming since the 1980s: situative scenes, voice recorded dreams, archives and voice messages.

Director’s statement

I’m a 36-year-old documentary film director. I recently became single again and started wondering why do all my relationships fail? It seems like I’m so afraid of loss that I don’t even start bonding and instead of solving this problem, I start saving others. Just like my mother? She was always anxious, only back then I didn’t understand why. She died 10 years ago. It’s time to let her go. DON’T WORRY, SARI! is about my heritage and the heritage of our generation, about the missed opportunities and about healing. About how we can break out from our own captivity. After my mother’s death I was left with the task of aborting the process she was put into so I don’t live and pass on this paralyzing anxiety of life. To be able to do that I needed to ask for external help, because I can't see the connections anymore from the inside. So, I decided to do all this in a transgenerational psychotherapy. This is what this film is about.